The "S" Word

SEX… oh man, I can’t believe I just said that! OK, let me try this again… "SEX! SEX! SEX!!! STOP KYLE... You can’t say these kinds of things, it sounds so wrong!"

So, you are probably wondering right now one of two things; either I am secretly a 10 year old, or someone hacked my blog. Let me tell you that you don’t have to worry, neither is true. What is true, however, is that this is the attitude and view most people within the church have about this hot and heavy topic (pun intended). You see, sex was intended to be a good thing; if fact, I would argue that sex was intended to be a really really really really good thing!

Hebrews 13:4 states that marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure. God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Jesus tells us that marriage should be honored by all. Marriage and “the marriage bed” were intended to remain pure and beautiful. Sex was intended to be between husband and wife, and Jesus reminds us of its sacredness.

God created humans to long for relationship and connection with other humans. One of the ways God intended man and woman to connect was through sex; but, the world turned the beauty of sex, into the forbidden ‘S’ word! Starting as early as 4th grade children learn what the world thinks about sex and the immaturity and laughter begins. But I applaud the world, and yes you heard me correctly, I applaud the world! The world might be teaching an un-Biblical view about what sex is truly about, but at least the world is talking about sex. Teenagers need to be informed about sex, it shouldn’t become some forbidden topic within the church because of discomfort. Sadly it is. Sex has become something to avoid with a thought process that goes something like this, “Maybe if we don’t talk about it, they won’t do it.” To be honest that is far from the truth as you can get.

According to, teenagers are loosing their virginity at the age of 16. If we don’t teach a biblical standpoint on sex, beyond just telling teens to not do it until marriage because it’s bad, teenagers will learn about sex at school, from their friends, or from the media. This isn't good because they will develop a world view of what sex looks like. God intended for sex to be a good thing, to be beautiful. We can not be afraid to speak about the ‘S’ word to the teenagers that look up to us.

-Kyle Littel